I sometimes wonder about the black race and it bothers me at times as far as where do  “we” get this mentality where we should stick to “what we know.” I have wanted to better myself in so many ways even if it meant that I would have to leave my home. The one place, I have always known throughout my life. But as always I realized when making the decision to share my plans with the people that’s in my life (family & friends) what I want to do; they would do nothing but, discourage me. Yes I would make plans, but there have been some things that had held me back throughout the years. That’s life what can I say. Maybe I was ready to move, but that was not in God’s plan for me. Or maybe because I was ready to better myself in the process I came across so many haters and they were praying for me to stay in my same position??? God does answers prayers right? I would hear “why would you leave here.” My answer would be” I want the experience of living somewhere else other than this one place I have known all my life. I am not happy so why not look to somewhere else for my happiness. I am not afraid of change.”

I have been watching a lot of slavery type movies lately. While I might be late on “Miss Jane Pittman” & “Queen” starring Halle Berry & Danny Glover along with the beautiful Jasmine Guy, these people were afraid of change once they were granted with their freedom. They were willing (even though freed form slavery) to stay on a plantation where they would work as slaves with no pay than to go out and explore what else life has to offer. These scenarios do get me to thinking about this day and age. Are my people afraid of change? Is that why a lot of black folks were quick to say that we would never have a black president and didn’t even bother to vote for the current President Mr. Barack Obama? Are our own people afraid to see our people not only lead, but become successful? Is that why the reason we may be in a relationship even though not happy we may go along for the ride just because the Mista is all we know?

I am keen to believe that “some blacks” would rather support another race before our own. Nothing is wrong with that as long as you are supporting that person for a good cause & not because of the color of their skin. Stop letting Jim Crow Laws hold some of you back! I spoke to a friend today and she said our President will not win the election because “they” will not let a black man have two terms in the White House.” My response was pretty simple; “they also said a black man will NEVER be President.” Unfortunately we can be our worst enemies. I have never heard White/Hispanic/Native American men who are attracted to black women or any other ethnic group, degrade their women.

I am a black woman & I may have not dated all races, except the ones I mentioned above. But those ones whom I did date, I have never heard them speak ill of their women. And when I say their women fellows,  please do remember when you diss the AA women being a AA male you are also dissing your sister, your mother, your aunts, your grandmother. I am sure some of you don’t care anyways. Whenever, I hang out with my AA male friends that date outside their race, there is always the need to justify why they do so.  I really don’t care who you date. I am just tired of the need to justify why you’re not dating black women. I do date outside of my race. But, I will never speak ill about my black men. Why? Because I am raising a black man, I have black brothers, my black ancestors fought long & hard to give me the freedom that I have today. Let’s stop holding each other back & support one another no matter what.